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whats something to do to get you through the day or even the year? im losing all hope, please please help.
Well I don’t have depression or anything like that but I do have a challenges blog, that tries to post a challenge a day. Also, I’ve talked to people and sometimes creating a bucket list and then giving yourself a time frame is good. I made one and I’ve given myself until my 25th birthday to complete them. It’s fun and it can start small and be big.
You can look at my list to give you some inspiration. I think that’s what you meant.
So I relapsed and I don't know how to tell my bestfriend, she'll be so mad and I am not in any state to lose her because then I will literally have nothing left. Please help me, please.
Like I said before, relapse don’t mean you’re weak. Tell your friend, if she’s truly your best friend just tell her that you’re sorry and that you need her help now more than ever to get back on the right track. Make a pact, realize what made you relapse and get her to help you avoid that. Work, my friend. Work on it.
If you need anyone to talk to, anon or not you can always talk to me here or on my personal.
Please....Everything hurts and I just need reasons to live....I relapsed broke up with my boyfriend my parents are getting divorced and i'm tired of the homophobic comments. Please help.
Take a deep breath. Please. Just sit down, don’t listen to anything and focus on the breathing. Small breaths in and out. I’ll break this up into small bits.
- Relapse is a part of it. You’re not weak because you relapsed once, twice, or a bunch of times. If you relapsed, realize why and fix that. If you relapsed it was because you were on the right path and veered off slightly, it doesn’t mean you cannot find that road again but that all depends on if you want to get better. If you do, then it’s simply a matter of stopping, turning around and going back on that road. Starting over does mean you have day 1 again but everyone needs to start somewhere. Get back on that road, you’ll be okay - I’m here.
- Breaking up is a part of relationships sometimes. It sucks, I know but there’s a reason they aren’t going to be in your future. Get over him and realize that the right guy is out there for you. That’s not the same crap like, “there’s plenty of fish in the sea”. You may take a long time to find that guy or you may not, but don’t settle or give up. No matter how long it takes, you can find that person.
- About your parents getting divorced, there’s a step by step about that. It could help to look at that but remember that while you’re their child, it’s not your fault that they are getting a divorce. Sometimes people just fall apart and there’s no other reason besides the fact that they are different now.
- Homophobic comments? FUCK THEM. I don’t like to swear on here but seriously, fuck them. If you are gay, that’s awesome. If you’re not, that’s awesome too. If there are people in your life that can’t accept you for who you are then leave them. Don’t let their opinion matter because you’re better than that. If they’re your family or whatever that are giving you the hate, I’m truly sorry. It’s hard to ignore comments from your family but realize that their ignorance is what’s driving their hate (not that that justifies it). Sometimes we have to ignore and let it go. Get a hobby that will allow you to escape from those comments in a healthy fashion.
I know this is long but I do hope it helped.
After changing to fit into society, you are eventually going to want your old self back sooner or later…
It’s human nature growing up in this society. You’ll want to change the little things about yourself until those little things turn into big things. You may want different clothes, hair, even a different body but eventually you’ll wish you hadn’t. You’ll look back at your life and your choices and realize that you’re not the person you wanted to be. You don’t recognize yourself in the mirror and you’ll regret not standing up for yourself. It’s hard staying true to yourself, even I’ve wanted to change things about myself but you’ll feel better in the end. I’ve changed but I’m on my way to getting back to my true self. Love is hard, but it’s possible.